“I just don’t know what do in the office anymore,” said Bob*, a coaching client and the owner of a small electronics company. “I can’t seem to keep my employees for very long. Everyone is so sensitive. All I am trying to do is relay information to keep problems from happening. Instead, people take my requests personally. Their feelings get hurt and they get mad. Then, not only do I still have the problem but I have an office full of angry people.”
Bob’s complaint was interesting to me because his problem was all about perception. He perceived that he was giving information to solve problems. His employees perceived that he was blaming and shaming them. The patterns would continue until they eventually would quit.
Meanwhile, Deborah*, a new brain training client, disclosed this to me: “I know I’ve only had a couple of sessions, but everything at work has started to change. I took everything so personally before. I got involved in other people’s problems, gossip, and negativity. But now, it’s like I have distance from all of that. I can see that stuff isn’t about me at all. It’s not upsetting me anymore. I can focus on my work, get it done, and then leave the office at the office.”
So, what is the connection between brain training, perception, and success at the office? There are several:
1. Brain imbalances cause us to become locked into emotional states that are there for “no reason”. We might feel angry, anxious, depressed, or irritable but have no underlying cause in our outside environment. This is because our brains are locked into an emotional response pattern as the result of traumas we experienced when we were younger.
2. Our brains look for patterns to make sense of the world. Scientists believe that dreams are the result of memories triggered while we are asleep. The brain has to make sense of these flashes of memory and tie them together to create a story, which results in a dream. Searching for patterns occurs in waking life too. For example, a person may have brainwave imbalances which cause them to always feel threatened by their environment. Even when there is no actual hostile event present, they will feel worried, anxious, or angry. Eventually, they will tell themselves a story to make the feeling make sense. “I think I might have cancer”, “My wife is mad at me”, or “My boss doesn’t appreciate me” are all stories we might tell ourselves based on negative feelings caused by brainwave imbalances.
3. The stories we tell ourselves aren’t always true but they can change our reality. When we tell ourselves a story to justify a feeling, we then start to act on the story instead of reality. In Bob’s case, his employees were responding to their feelings of being threatened. Instead, the reality was merely that Bob just wanted things done a different way. Unfortunately, the response to the faulty perception then created the reality of a negative and unhappy work environment.
4. Responding to faulty perception can cause us to lose relationships, clients, and jobs. The fear and anxiety caused by brainwave imbalance can have real and negative consequences. When we act on stories we have made up, we end up creating real problems for ourselves. We might accuse someone of doing something they haven’t done, we misinterpret communications, and we have a harder time working with others. If the pattern continues, we end up destroying relationships, hurt our chances for advancement, and even drive away clients or customers.
So, how does brainwave training help with all of this? While imbalances can cause emotions like fear, worry, and sadness; people whose brains are functioning properly generally feel relaxed, happy, safe most of the time. People with balanced brains are able to properly respond to their environment because they aren’t making up stories in their heads. They recognize when situations aren’t about them and don’t take things personally. While they may respond to a scary event with fear, when the event subsides they leave the fear behind and resume living in a state of contentment. Most importantly, they are pleasant to be around and attract positive, happy people to their environment.
A healthy, balanced brain is crucial for success at work. Not only are you better able to solve problems and get work done, you are more likely to maintain positive relationships with your coworkers, supervisors, and clients. Best of all, your mind is free from negativity and ready to embrace the next opportunity that comes your way.
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*Names have been changed to protect privacy